Today is Day 5 in the Deepak Chopra and Oprah 21 Day Meditation Challenge: Destiny and Desire. Again we examine our limiting beliefs because what you focus on expands. (Are you keeping your gratitude journal?) A lot of the time we spend beating ourselves up saying we’re not smart enough or pretty enough to deserve our dreams. But I’m here to tell you, along with Deepak and Oprah, that we all have a distinct purpose and our passions and desires lead us to that purpose. And I’m talking a bigger purpose than dark chocolate with sea salt or jeggings that don’t make your thighs look fat, both of which I desire daily.
Basically, when we do what we love we open the door to abundance and prosperity in all areas of our lives. Here’s an easy question to test where you fall in the spectrum. When you wake up each morning are you excited about your projects for the day? Or do you feel bored, stuck, and lost? Before I started writing this blog I was not only bored with my day to day routine, I was so stuck in my life I might as well become a fossil at The Labrea Tar Pits. The next logical question to ask is, “If you’re not doing what you love, what’s holding you back?” My boy, Deepak, breaks it down brilliantly by saying that most limiting beliefs fall under two categories, “money or worth.” Either we believe that our dreams are out of our reach, or we believe we can’t make enough money just doing what we love.
I definitely fall into this second category. I’m stuck in a job that I hate because I’m scared if I leave I won’t make as much money or be able to support the comfort of living I’m now used to. Which includes Chanel face cream and all you can eat shrimp. But apparently, according to Deepak, I’m severely limiting what I’m getting out of life. It is our ego that creates limiting stories. Our true selves are pure spirit which is unbounded. There’s no limit to the amount of joy or prosperity we can experience. If we could just believe this concept!
In order to break down some of these beliefs, this morning I attended one of the most amazing classes ever at Wanderlust Yoga. It’s called “The Class by Taryn Toomey.” This class makes you do moves like squats or burpees for a ridiculously long time until you get to the point of uncomfortability. Then, when you’re at the point of quitting, you examine the negative beliefs that are coming up in order to purge them. Are you the type of person who quits when the going gets tough or do you persevere and grow stronger? These are the types of thoughts you examine, all to a very primal music sound track.
The teacher brought up a couple interesting points through all of this physical torture. First, we are the only species on the planet that refuses to be 100 percent our true selves. My cat gives zero fucks if I catch him licking his butthole. So why should I care if the girl next to me is wearing ridiculously expensive Lulu Lemons and I’m not? Why do we try so hard to fit into “the norm?” Why not spend more time following our bliss? As I closed my eyes and jumped around the room, I realized I was doing just that, and having so much FUN just being with myself.
As the exercises got harder, the second point the teacher brought up was to take note of the excuses we make when we’re uncomfortable. Do we say things like, “I’ll just rest a second. No one will notice?” Or maybe we like to say, “I’m too out of shape. I look dumb.” Or even, “I really have to pee. I’ll just sneak out for a second and be right back…” This happened to be the one I was thinking for the whole first 5 minutes. Then the teacher named it out loud verbatim, I was convinced she was a witch reading my mind, and decided I better push through in case she turned me into stone, a frog, or otherwise impaired my beloved ability to speak.
The best part of this class was that we were encouraged to drop our facades and just be with ourselves. And to consider the thought that the challenges life is giving you could be for the purpose of teaching you a powerful lesson. I know without the challenges I faced in the past I wouldn’t be writing this blog to you right now. I wouldn’t be the strong person I am today, and for that I’m thankful. And as you feel a huge pain in your ass, literally, we were doing five minutes of leg pulses, it’s not just about getting a tight butt, it’s about uncovering those feelings you’ve stuffed down into your body over the years and releasing them.
I truly love finding a community where 80 plus people are screaming at the top of their lungs letting go of any self hate or resentment they’re holding inside. I encourage anyone in Los Angeles to check out The Class at 9am Sunday mornings or 7pm Wednesday evenings at Wanderlust Yoga in Hollywood. Or google The Class near you.
Throughout the week I also encourage you to just surrender and follow your bliss. Try something new you’ve been meaning to check out. Take yourself on a date to a museum or restaurant. And once you’re feeling a little passion, dig deep and ask yourself what it is you truly desire. Once you know what it is, all that’s left to do is say, “Yes!” Choose passion. Choose abundance. Drop the facade. Choose you.
And so it is.